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Wednesday, April 8, 2015

Native American Tribes Defend Traditional Marriage

Native American Tribes Defend Traditional Marriage



Months before the U.S. Supreme Court rules on the issue of gay marriage, Native American tribes have taken steps to defend traditional marriage.

Eleven tribes with a total membership approaching a million people will not recognize same-sex marriages.

Just weeks after North Carolina began issuing marriage licenses to gay couples, the state's Eastern Band of Cherokee Indians updated its law to prevent gay couples from having marriage ceremonies on tribal land.

Tribes that don't recognize same-sex marriage include the Cherokee Nation in Oklahoma and the Navajo Nation.

Sunday, March 29, 2015

Intimacy - Now Think On This by Steve Martin


Intimacy
- Now Think On This
by Steve Martin


“My beloved responded and said to me,
'Arise, my darling, my beautiful one,
And come along.
'For behold, the winter is past,
The rain is over and gone.
'The flowers have already appeared in the land;
The time has arrived for pruning the vines,
And the voice of the turtledove has been heard in our land.
'The fig tree has ripened its figs,
And the vines in blossom have given forth their fragrance.
Arise, my darling, my beautiful one,
And come along!'"

Song of Songs 2:10-13 NASU)


As my bride came down the church aisle that beautiful early evening, I sang these Scriptural words to her that I had written in my song, “Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, and come along.” Though I had intended to sing several verses, I choked up on the second one. My heart was just overwhelmed at her beauty, her movement in that flowing white laced gown, and the presence of the Lord’s Holy Spirit in that place of matrimony. The time had come for us to be joined together as man and wife.

What seemed to have been a decade long wait was about to be fulfilled in that moment, as we were acknowledging the Lord’s plans and purposes for unity. Out of our desire to share the love in our hearts, He would also bring forth a family to demonstrate His love on the earth, in preparation for the eternal love in heaven.

From that day forward, we have grown in our care and provision for each other, sharing the gifts and spiritual fruit we each have had to give. In physical, emotional and spiritual intimate moments, we have experienced a touch of what the Father, Son and Holy Spirit have shared for all eternity. Believing that through the times of trials and required persistency, our hearts have been bonded together, the intimacy becoming more real in our lives together.

Being intimate with one other is not an “overnight sensation” that one can have with another simply out of a physical act. To participate in the intent of the Father’s love for mankind, there must be that commitment to be joined together for the long haul; to stand strong when the temptation is to flee; to keep the promise that was spoken at the altar years before. Intimacy is not for those who are looking for a quick satisfaction of one’s emotional lust, but is given to committed hearts who have been and continue to be willing to sacrifice for each other, time and time again. From that solid promise to stay through sickness and health, riches or poverty, until death do we part, the intimate moments are fully experienced, fulfilling the longing in each heart to be accepted, nourished and kept in committed and submitted love.

In today’s society there is the prevailing belief that there can be emotional intimacy without having a strong commitment to one another beyond a sexual act. When the Lord says that sex outside of marriage is wrong, it is because the Creator knows that a deep soulish tie will occur, bringing hurt and lasting pain when an improper joining happens. We were not created to share this intimate act in a non-binding relationship.

The emotional and physical act also carries with it a spiritual bond that has to be kept within the protected walls of marriage. Thus doing that which was intended only within the committed relationship of sacred marriage will produce an emotional scar, keeping us from experiencing real love. It will also leave a strong imprint that will need to be healed later. Our loving Father thus has warned over and over again that sexual intimacy is for the marriage bed only.

Laws are made to protect us, not to keep us from the Lord’s goodness and favor. Abiding in His laws of love and protection will bring eternal satisfaction, keeping our hearts pure and emotions strong. Breaking His loving laws will produce destruction in our spirit, soul and body.

Intimacy between a man and a woman is a beautiful gift from God. Keeping it that way is a protection for our society and the good of all mankind.

Now think on this,

Steve Martin
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Now Think On This #169 “Intimacy” by Steve Martin 
Date: In the year of our Lord 2015 (03.29.15) Sunday at 12:30 pm in Charlotte, NC


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Monday, March 9, 2015

Is There a Spiritual Side to Sex? - Charisma Magazine

God created sex for married men and women, so it stands to reason that there is a spiritual side to it.
God created sex for married men and women, so it stands to reason that there is a spiritual side to it. (iStock photo)
New Man
It's silly not to talk about the No. 1 issue, the No. 1 temptation, the No. 1 economic engine in culture for menand that's sex.
Testosterone never goes away; your sex life isn't just a physical thing. God knows where your sex life really is—on the inside. There is so much sexual confusion, so much brokenness. I have never met a man who hasn't, in some way, been impacted or broken in the area of sex in one form or another. 
God's mind on sex is very positive. Sex is a gift. That's how He created you. Sex is a good thing. He wants you to use that aspect of your life for positive things, not to misuse or abuse it.
God hates sexual sin, not because He hates sex, but because He loves life. Our identity as God's men, our energy and expression sexually is to honor, worship and glorify God.
But the message from culture is that sex is a compartmentalized, private aspect of your life that you really shouldn't talk about a whole lot, and that it's a deeply personal and individualized choice and experience. It's almost a separated functionally in our physical and spiritual lives.
Unfortunately for all of us, culture is wrong, and you can't separate sex and spirituality because God created it. It is not just another bodily function. It's not just another pleasurable experience. It's far more than that. To deny the spirituality of sex is disastrous in your life and the lives of those you've hooked up with.
Let's take a look under the hood. We are going to look at the body. We will eventually go body, mind and spirit, but for this series, we are going to look at the physical aspects of sex and masculinity.
What is going on in your body? Men have testosterone. Our male physical development hits its peak at an early age. It has this bell curve we are all familiar with, but did you know that men have what we would call a man period—or a man's cycle?
Women get blamed for their week of the month. It's not a good time and they are suffering all the time. You know, she's in a bad mood, with good biological reason.
After doing some research, I realized that men have a period too—or a man cycle—connected to their testosterone.  I'm going to prove to you emphatically, from your own personal experience, that this is true.
Testosterone levels are highest when: morning or evening?
Testosterone is highest in the morning. That's why you are going hunting in your shorts in the morning. When you wake up, that's when there is blood flow. I don't know why God did that, but for men it's highest in the morning and lowest at bedtime.
Do you know that men also have emotional cycles related to their testosterone levels? It runs in a four- to six-week rhythm.
There are also periods of low testosterone levels, whether you're older or younger. The lowest levels are generally in the spring, usually in April. The spring would be the male sexual winter. When we are in that season of four to six weeks, the key feelings that men have are apathy and indifference.
The peak time is November. I don't know why that is, but maybe that's why it's football season.    
Here's where it's actually more serious. Testosterone is very intimately linked to your level of stress, anxiety, depression, aggression and mood. This is very important because negative emotions have a negative impact on the people around you.
Is this a physiological thing? Is this fate? Can we control our hormones' behavior?
Yes, testosterone has the ability to produce more stress, depression, aggression and anger in your life, but you have control over that. It's all about who you are: your beliefs, your values and where are you going to go with those negative emotions and the impacts of testosterone in your life.
That's where we'll go in Part Two, because if there is a natural physiological presence of testosterone, and I'm single, I'm married, I'm more mature, my body is more mature or I'm single again, where do we go with it?
Kenny Luck is the president and founder of Every Man Ministries. As the former men's pastor at Saddleback Church in California and current leadership pastor at Crossline Community Church, Kenny has found the proven way to improve men's ministries around the world. Sleeping Giant is this blueprint, and gives men the tools they need to lead and understand their own men's ministry. Watch Kenny's teachings at everymanministries.com and start your men's group today!
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Friday, November 7, 2014

Marriage Is the Economic Stimulus We Need

Marriage Is the Economic 
Stimulus We Need
This may be a surprising statement from a bleary-eyed, number-crunching economist, but the best anti-poverty program in America may not be tax cuts or debt reduction or regulatory relief, but rather that old-fashioned institution called marriage.

It turns out that poverty rates are very low among intact families and prevalent among homes without a father. Children who grow up in single-parent households are much more likely to face economic trouble as adults.

Those who cheer divorce as a form of women's liberation, or who say that stigmatizing out-of-wedlock births is just right-wing sermonizing, just don't get this intertwined connection between two-parent households and economic success. Socio-cultural factors like the decline of marriage are leading causes of the wealth gap and the stubborn poverty trap in many low income neighborhoods.

For more economic insight, check out more of Stephen Moore's articles on CBN News here.



This isn't to say that kids who grow up in broken homes can't succeed - millions heroically do. It doesn't mean that every marriage was meant to be - many times divorce is the only option. But what is irrefutable is that marriage with a devoted husband and wife in the home is a far better social program than food stamps, Medicaid, public housing, or even all of them combined.

This conclusion is made clear by a new eye-opening and sometimes depressing report called the Index of Culture and Opportunity by my colleagues at the Heritage Foundation. It's conclusion: "We have to reshape our culture before we can ever hope to make a big dent in the number of poor households."

Some of the cultural indicators are going in a positive direction; others have taken a decidely negative course.

First, the good news: violent crime is down. So is the number of abortions.

But in other ways we are ripping our families and our society apart. Consider these statistics on family breakup.

"From 2001 to 2011, the marriage rate dropped by 10.3 marriages per 1,000 unmarried women, or 22.8 percent. Since the 1960s, it has fallen by about 50 percent."

According to one of the report's scholars, W. Bradford Wilcox, "only about half of the nation's adults are cur­rently married, and about half of the nation's children will spend some time outside an intact, married home."

This is a form of child abuse. And those numbers are much higher in low income communities. In some cities like Detroit and Newark two of every three children are born out of wedlock. Name a government program that can take the place of a father.

This troubling trend appears to be a road block to the American Dream. One study by Harvard economist Raj Chetty and his colleagues, finds that when it comes to what is preveninng the economic upward mobility of poor children, "the strongest and most robust predic­tor is the fraction of children with single parents."

It's also true and often overlooked that family breakup creates a statistical illusion that we are making less economic progress than we actually are. For example, if a married couple earns $80,000, but then ends up in divorce, there are now two households earning $40,000. So it appears the economy is slipping and average household income is falling. But in fact what has slipped is the culture.

Meanwhile, birth rates are falling and falling. In only two of the last 40 years have birth rates exceeded replacement level fertility of 2.1 kids per couple.

Who will take care of and finance the retirement of the near 80 milllion baby boomers? Thank goodness for immigration. The population bomb that was once famously worried about by scholars like Paul Ehrlish has become a population fizzle.

Most economists agree that the sharp decline in the share of Americans between ages 18 to 64 that are working is a major economic hindrance. This isn't just happening by chance but rather as a result of policy and cultural changes.

Welfare households, the report finds, are much more likely to have no one working at all and so the assistance becomes a substitute for work. The value of work is denigrated in our modern society and welfare has been elevated. Millions of jobs are there for the taking if the unemployed and underemployed go out and obtain useful skills.

But our culture too often frowns upon Americans doing what are regarded as grimy, blue collar jobs - even though they can pay $60,000 to $100,000 a year. This may explain why it is so hard to get a plumber or carpenter or any kind of handyman these days.

We also seem to disparage the idea of young people, especially teens, working. We parents spoil our kids - and I'm no less guilty than others - with leisure and money. And many millennials have to come to think that to pull them away from the television or computer or Gameboy screen is an offense that is reportable to child protective services.

But this new report reminds us of the obvious: that there is dignity, character building, and self-sufficiency in all forms of labor.

One of my favorite scenes in a recent movie is in Cinderella Man, when during the depths of the Great Depression, James Bradock, played by Russell Crowe, is forced as a last resort to take a welfare payment from the government to feed his family. His sense of shame is clearly evident. Then, when he wins some prize fights and gets back on his feet, he goes back to the welfare office and returns all the taxpayer money he took in his hour of need.

Who does that today? It is now the opposite. The Obama administration runs television and radio ads assuring welfare recipients they should feel no shame whatsoever in taking a hand out and even tells them that the more they live off the expense of someone else (taxpayers), the better it is for the economy. Liberals are trying to bend the culture in a subversive direction and given that last year we had 47 million on food stamps, the Left is succeeding.

We economists bury ourselves in the data and the formulas to try to devise policy recommendations to make the economy grow faster and raise the living standards of workers and families. It's humbling to realize how much of our nation's economic success is based on a culture of virtue. Do the right thing, as Spike Lee would put it.

To save our economy from a path of decline we need to start with a personal and national commitment to sturdy families, strong parents, and a reemergence of the Protestant work ethic. That shouldn't be so hard.

 is chief economist at the Heritage Foundation and an economics contributor to CBN.

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Conquer Fear Successfully by Jennifer Winchester

Conquer Fear Successfully 

by Jennifer Winchester

Identity Network

Most of humanity tries to conquer their worst fears through the way that comes most naturally to them – control. The irony in this is that by attempting to control a particular situation, we actually help the fear to manifest itself and to come to pass. Why? Because trying to control a situation that you fear is actually a form of submitting to that fear. In doing so you are not having faith that God is in control. I know what some of you are saying, ‘But God expects us to do our part!’ 

While this may very well true, your part is not to take the situation wholly into your own hands. Let me give an example.
Let’s say that a newly married woman (let’s call her Sue) has a fear that her husband will cheat on her. Maybe her father was a cheater, or her last boyfriend. So Sue decides that in order to insure that her new husband will not cheat, she is going to monitor him constantly, keep him from going out with his friends, or doing anything outside of the home apart from her or very few well controlled situations for that matter. 

He cannot have his own email, Facebook, etc. She checks his cell phone regularly and basically trusts in her own ability to prevent him from even having a chance to encounter another woman. 

While in Sue’s mind this seems to be logical, she in actuality is believing in her fear. The Bible tells us that what we believe in, is what will happen. Sue’s actions are actually imposing on and creating the optimal conditions in her marriage for her husband to cheat. Why?  Sue is already treating him like a cheater, therefore he becomes the cheater that she always believed he would be.

The practical flesh and bones explanation for this particular situation is that eventually Sue’s husband will become tired of her controlling behaviors and He will seek out the companionship of someone who trusts him and has confidence in him, because one of a man’s greatest needs is for his wife to have confidence in him.

Avoiding Fear by Maintaining Control

Let’s say that your fear has nothing to do with a particular relationship. What if it is a broader fear, like a fear of not succeeding at a particular goal? There is a biblical illustration that Jesus gives us relating to a similar situation. In the parable of the Talents as told by Jesus himself, we are shown how trying to avoid fear by maintaining control is not only unproductive, but is seen as an act of wickedness! Let’s look at what happened with the servant who tried to conquer fear with control.

Matthew 25:24-30 Then the man who had received one bag of gold came. “Master,” he said, “I knew that you are a hard man, harvesting where you have not sown and gathering where you have not scattered seed.  So I was afraid and went out and hid your gold in the ground. See, here is what belongs to you.”

His master replied, “You wicked, lazy servant! So you knew that I harvest where I have not sown and gather where I have not scattered seed? Well then, you should have put my money on deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have received it back with interest.  

So take the bag of gold from him and give it to the one who has ten bags.  For whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them.  And throw that worthless servant outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.”

This parable clearly shows the repercussions of trying to conquer fear through control.
The servant bowed down to his fear of losing the money, so he did not invest it, instead he decided to control its safety by burying it and in the end the outcome was worse than if he had invested it and lost it. On the other hand, the servant who had ten bags didn’t have the ten bags because he was lucky, he had ten bags because he had faith that what he was given would multiply, instead of a fear that it would be lost!

Spiritual No-Nos

There are a couple of main spiritual “no-nos” that give the enemy foothold in trying to control fear.
  1. Trying to control the thing you fear rather than trusting God, is a form of pride. It is telling God that you are better at handling the situation than He is.
  2. It is a form of idolatry. You in many ways are serving the fear. The fear dictates your actions, and even causes you to handle situations in ungodly ways.
  3. By attempting to have control over your fear, you are solidifying your belief in that fear. You are actually having faith in the fear – more faith in the fear than you have in God’s ability to handle it in a way that will eliminate it.
I feel it is important to also note here that fear, if gone undetected can become a generational curse, it may be a fear that your parents unintentionally gave to you through their actions or behaviors, and that you may hand down to your children as well.

I realize that this may be a little difficult for some to fully grasp, and even more difficult for one to be able to pinpoint in their own life. Many people will read over an article like this and quickly say “that’s not me.” Do not let that be you! Don’t let pride keep you from freedom! Fear is a stronghold, and takes deep spiritual maturity, and the ability to self-reflect sometimes on deeper levels to really be able to detect it. 

This is because the strongest fears have been a part of our lives for so long that we cannot discern that they are there anymore. They become normal, acceptable, and the way we handle them is seemingly good to us. To suggest to handle them any other way is just foolishness to us! 

1 Corinthians 1:27 But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong.

How to Handle Fear

So let’s talk about how to successfully handle fear.
  1. Realize that fear is a spiritual principality that no man is completely immune against. Realizing this is very crucial, because one of the biggest most successful tricks of Satan is to keep us from perceiving or discerning how he is attacking us. Keeping God’s people in ignorance, pride or denial is a huge benefit for him. If you say you have no fear chances are that it is just undetected, or the way you handle the fear makes you feel safe. Fear can start out very small, but if the person who has it is in denial it will grow to overtake them. Our only immunity against fear itself is to learn to first discern when we have one, and to admit it. This is the first step.
  2. Surrender the fear to God. This is really tough for some people. It means giving up control. It is complete surrender of the fear to God. It means you take your hands off of it! Bring it to God in prayer. Usually fears that are deep rooted (such as things that come from childhood pain, or past hurtful experiences) require fasting. This is because those fears have become strongholds. This is often not just a one – time prayer, it requires constant prayer for a period of time until the Holy Spirit fills the place where the fear once lived in you, and His peace takes over. Philippians 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
  3. Meditate on the goodness of God. When we fully grasp how much God loves us, and how much He cares about the details of our life, then we no longer fear things, people, or situations anymore. Here are some great verses to get started with:
  • 1 John 4:18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. and meditation on verses that tell us of God’s faithfulness, love and goodness.

  • Romans 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

  • Hebrews 13:5-6 Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?”
  1. After you get peace, listen. The Holy Spirit will guide you if you need to take action. I can promise you, that the action He will prompt you to take will go against any other way you may have previously handled it – it may even seem foolish to you!
The most important thing that you need to realize is that fear is a way of seeing things. It distorts the reality of what God has planned for your life, and can keep you bound and stagnant. It is my prayer for you today that you recognize any fears that you have and give them over to the one who conquered all for us on the cross!

Prayer:

Father God, I come before you today and ask you to open my eyes to any fears that have gone undetected in my life. I also ask you to show me any ways that I am trying to control the things or situations that I fear. I ask that you forgive me for not trusting you with those areas. I give all of my fears and worries over to you, I take my hands completely off of the situation because I trust you more than I trust myself. 

I ask for you to send me your peace, and love where fear once was, because I know that your perfect love casts out all fear. Thank you Jesus for conquering every fear and for making me victorious through your death and resurrection.
In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

Jennifer Winchester
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Thursday, March 27, 2014

7 Meaningful Touches Every Husband Should Use When Reaching for His Wife

Simple physical contact can make a huge difference in a marriage.

Simple physical contact can make a huge difference in a marriage. (iStock photo)

7 Meaningful Touches Every Husband 

Should Use When Reaching for His Wife


NEIL KENNEDY/FIVESTARMAN  CHARISMAMAGAZINE

I recently called to check on my father, who wasn’t feeling well. After talking for a few minutes, I asked about his wife (not my mother). They’ve enjoyed a wonderful relationship for 45 years of marriage. He said, “She is doing well, sitting here holding my hand.”
I must admit, I thought of that as a Hallmark moment—a seasoned couple sitting in their cabin on a mountain in Arkansas, still in love and holding hands.
The human touch has amazingly powerful benefits to both parties—physically, emotionally, physiologically and even spiritually. Studies have revealed innumerable benefits. Unfortunately, some men have allowed their hands to withdraw from reaching for their wives.
Here are seven meaningful touches every husband should when reaching for his wife:
1. Reach for your wife first thing in the morning. It may be a gentle pat as you’re getting out of bed or a hug when you first see each other, but reach for her before you get busy about the day.
2. Throughout the day, a text or quick phone call is a great touch of affection. A simple “I love you” or “Just thinking about you and looking forward to the evening” will go a long way in letting her know she is on your mind.
3. Write a note the old-fashioned way. We’re so tech-savvy these days that sometimes an old-fashioned approach is more meaningful.
4. Whether your wife loves flowers, chocolate or shoes, sending these on “regular” days rather than typical celebration days will be a huge touch.
5. Save some energy so you can give your wife special attention when you return home. Embrace her warmly and greet her when you first enter the home.
6. Hold her hand at random times —while driving, walking or just sitting at home.
7. Give her a back rub.
Bonus Touch
I want to add one more to the list that is a real standout and will take your relationship to another dimension: Lay your hand upon her and speak a blessing over her and her dreams while praying in agreement with her. This may take you out of your comfort zone, but I promise you this will be a game-changer in your spiritual walk and leadership with your wife and family.
Reach out and touch your wife. The benefits are immeasurable.
FivestarMan was founded in 2008 by Neil KennedyKennedy has passionately promoted God’s Word for 25-plus years of ministry. He is known for practically applying biblical principles that elevate people to a new level of living. As a business, church, ministry and life consultant, Kennedy has helped others strategize the necessary steps to reach their full potential.
For the original article, visit fivestarman.com.


Friday, January 31, 2014

7 Ways a Husband Injures a Wife Without Even Knowing It


Angry couple
Husbands, do you injure your wives without even knowing it? (Stock Free Images)
It’s been a popular post. Thankfully, I’ve not seemed to make a lot of women mad—a few, but not many that I have heard from yet. We will see how the men respond with this post.
As I committed, a companion post is warranted. Guys, we injure our wives. All of us do. We are different, and the way we respond to our wives often causes injury. And most of the time, it’s unintentional. We didn’t even know we were doing it.
I’m not making excuses for us. We should strive to learn our spouses and do better at understanding our differences, communicating better and injuring less. That’s what this post is about. Awareness. Understanding.
I ran this post by my wife, so it’s Cheryl-approved, although it wasn’t hard to write. As a counselor and pastor, I’ve worked with hundreds of couples and have seen this countless times. I wish I could say I never did any of these, but that would be a lie. This post is written with one finger pointed forward and four more pointed my way.
Here are seven ways a husband injures a wife without even knowing it:
1. Cuts her out of the discussion. When you act as if she isn’t even there or wouldn’t understand what you’re talking about, she feels a part of her is detached. She sees the marriage as a partnership in every part of life—even the parts she may never fully understand.
2. Fails to notice the difference she makes. A woman doesn’t want to be appreciated for only what she does. She wants you to appreciate who she is, but you can admit it—she does a lot. Whether it’s decorating the house or making sure the clothes are clean or that you have your favorite soap, a woman wants to know what she does is valued by you.
3. Underestimates the small stuff. You only said “this” but it was “THIS” to her. And it hurts. You may even think it’s funny. She may even laugh. But it is often building a wall of protection around her heart each time you do. The key here is that you can’t talk to her like you might talk to another guy. She hears and feels deeper than you do. Words can and do hurt.
4. Speaks with curtness. When you talk down to her, as if she’s somehow less than you, you bruise her spirit. Deeply. You know she’s not less than you—you don’t even think she is—but she just can’t tell that sometimes based on your tone and the way you talk to her.
5. Corrects her as she’s talking. This could be finishing her sentences or speaking for her in the company of others. She feels demeaned and devalued when you present her to others as if she can’t compete with you in original thought, which you know isn’t true. (My wife is much smarter than me.)
6. Acts suspicious. Don’t misunderstand or misapply this one. When you hide information, even when you think you’re protecting her, you cause her to question your motive. When you protect your calendar or act like you are upset at the question “What did you do today?” or “What did you talk about?” or “Who was that?” when someone calls, it gives her an eerie feeling something is wrong. And that hurts.
7. Admires other women over her. She sees you looking. She may even understand your highly visual makeup. It hurts her, however, when a glance becomes a stare, especially when it happens everywhere you go, all the time.
A wife’s heart, no matter how independent or strong she is, is tender in places—lots of places. She can bruise easily in some areas of her life, especially the places that involve the people she loves the most—like you. A husband who understands this is more careful in how he speaks and responds to her.
Most husbands I know would never injure their wife knowingly. They want to be her protector. Men, when we don’t realize the damage we are doing to our wives' emotions, we invalidate every desire we have to be her defender. I always like to use this thought as a reminder: Would I ever allow another man to speak to or treat my wife like I am doing?
She’s a precious gift, guys. Let’s treat her well.
What other ways do husbands injure their wives without even knowing it?
Ron Edmondson is a church planter and pastor with a heart for strategy, leadership and marketing, especially geared toward developing churches and growing and improving the kingdom of God.
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